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Postpartum insomnia is a common problem for new parents that involves trouble falling asleep, staying asleep, or both. Birthing parents and breast/chestfeeding parents are more likely to be affected, and the problem can start during pregnancy or after birth.
Postpartum insomnia symptoms mirror regular insomnia symptoms and include:
It is important to distinguish between insomnia and sleep deprivation/disrupted sleep.
ALL new parents experience disrupted sleep and some degree of sleep deprivation because newborns have to be fed every few hours. Therefore, it’s very difficult or impossible to get a normal nighttime stretch of sleep during the first few weeks or months, especially for a breast/chestfeeding parent.
So even though a new parent may be able to get enough total hours of sleep in a day, it is only a few hours at a time. This is not as restorative and can still cause the same problems as not getting enough sleep. Very fussy or colicky babies make it even more difficult for new parents to get enough sleep, and can result in significant sleep deprivation.
=> So not getting enough sleep simply because the baby is waking you up or keeping you up because they are crying, need to be fed, or have to be held/rocked to sleep is NOT insomnia.
=> Insomnia is when you have the opportunity to sleep – when the baby is sleeping, when your partner offers to take over, or when you have someone available to watch the baby for you – but you STILL can’t fall asleep or stay asleep.
Stress is a very common cause of insomnia. It can impact birthing and non-birthing parents simply due to the adjustment of bringing a new baby home and learning how to care for the baby or how to care for the baby AND an older child.
Both birthing and non-birthing parents may experience changes to their circadian rhythm (day/night pattern) and their sleep drive (the natural “pressure” or tired sensation that helps you to fall asleep around the same time each night). This is due to generally disrupted sleep and constantly changing sleep times, increased daytime sleep (all the naps!), and suppressed melatonin secretion from nighttime light exposure during overnight feedings.
Birthing parents and breast/chestfeeding parents are also impacted by physical complications and hormonal changes from childbirth and/or milk production that can cause insomnia on their own or by creating more stress. These may include:
Short-term or acute insomnia refers to sleep difficulties that only last a few days or weeks at a time. It usually occurs in response to a stressor (such as physical and/or emotional postpartum adjustment). This type of insomnia typically resolves when the stressor goes away or becomes less of a problem. Therefore, if you have only been experiencing insomnia for a short time or it isn’t happening too often, then there is a good chance it will go away as you heal physically and adjust to new routines.
Long-term or chronic insomnia refers to sleep difficulties that occur at least three times per week for three months or longer. This kind of insomnia generally indicates an underlying physical or psychological problem and is unlikely to go away until the underlying problem is treated.
If you think you need help for postpartum insomnia, your treatment options will depend on what is causing your insomnia:
Physical – It is always best to meet with your doctor first to rule out common physical causes such as iron deficiency, thyroid changes, or a side effect of medications. If they believe you may have a sleep-related disorder such as sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome, they will refer you to a specialist for testing.
Psychological – If you are experiencing a postpartum mood disorder such as anxiety, depression, or PTSD, these can all contribute to insomnia in different ways and you will need to seek out behavioral health treatment. A therapist can help you to process your postpartum thoughts and feelings and identify the most effective coping skills to manage your mood and therefore improve sleep.
Medication may also be necessary – you can start by reaching out to your primary doctor or OB and they will refer you to a psychiatrist if needed. People generally feel the most benefit in a shorter amount of time when they combine therapy and medication for treatment.
Conditioned – Short-term sleep disturbances can lead people to cope in ways that cause them to develop habits and thinking patterns that unintentionally reinforce poor sleep. For example, drinking lots of caffeine, taking too many naps, or being worried about if you’ll be able to sleep tonight. This turns into a type of chronic insomnia.
Treatment for conditioned insomnia requires changing your environment and routines and re-training your brain out of those unhelpful thinking patterns – this can be accomplished through something called CBT-I.
Yes! If your doctor has ruled out or addressed any physical causes, cognitive behavioral therapy or coaching is a brief, structured, and scientifically proven approach to treating insomnia. It is equally effective as prescription sleep medication in the short-term, and more effective in the long-term because it addresses the root of the problem and creates lasting change to your sleep (whereas sleep problems return when medication is discontinued). With CBT-I, you will learn to:
CBT-I and similar cognitive behavioral approaches to insomnia are offered by behavioral sleep specialists, mental health therapists, general life coaches, and adult sleep coaches/consultants. If you are experiencing significant postpartum mood issues, I recommend finding a therapist trained in CBT-I. He or she will be able to address other symptoms of anxiety, depression, PTSD, etc. and any deeper or more complicated psychological issues in addition to helping you improve your sleep.
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